Since I found this website, I have been sitting here reading this book. I am one of the few men. I thought that the emotional pain that I feel could not be topped and that no one could understand me. Now I see and understand what a narcissist can do to other people. I understand now, but it does make my suffering any less painful. I have been in a relationship with a married woman for 3 ½ years. After having “capturing” me by pulling out all the stops, she began acting jealous after a few months. She monitored my cellphone, I was being watched permanently, she had others report what I was doing, and made dreadful accusations. No conversations or vows or expressions of love are of any use. Her facial expression can change from one second to another. Completely irrational statements. Until now, I did not know anything about narcissist. But here it seems as though I am reading my own life story – 100%. I am a very social and life-loving person – but there is hardly any of that left in me now. I have already been to 4 doctors, but no one has been able to help me. I finally want to be able to find joy in life again! What makes these people so powerful? Thank you for this website and the books!